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MIND EQUALS BLOWN!!

February 4, 2024 by Charlie Hazzard

The day that spelling hurt my head.

I have dyslexia and I have discovered a thing called “auto-correct” or another form is “spell check” BUT, what is Dyslexia? Is it stupidity? Is it a learning disability? Or is it just the way things are? Like a hair color? or personality traits?

The MAYO defined it as:

“Dyslexia is a learning disorder that involves difficulty reading due to problems identifying speech sounds and learning how they relate to letters and words (decoding). Also called a reading disability, dyslexia is a result of individual differences in areas of the brain that process language.

Dyslexia is not due to problems with intelligence, hearing or vision. Most children with dyslexia can succeed in school with tutoring or a specialized education program. Emotional support also plays an important role.

Though there’s no cure for dyslexia, early assessment and intervention result in the best outcome. Sometimes dyslexia goes undiagnosed for years and isn’t recognized until adulthood, but it’s never too late to seek help.”

CURE!??!!! I DONT WANT A CURE! I SAY HOGWASH! Dyslexia is a much-needed form of information processing for my talents, if you took it away from me, I would be crushed!!! Sure, it makes things harder in academia, but let’s be honest, school is a very short time in life (unless you become a teacher I guess). I attended school until I could “drop out” in my sophomore year of high school, how stupid? Well, let me tell you a secret… In the Eighth grade I earned a 2 year all-expense paid ride at the UofM but never used it. For me school was terribly slow repetition and mundane. My IQ was measured many years ago and it was actually very high. (stating facts, to prove my point, not bragging) SO WHY DID I DROP OUT?

I made the decision to drop out after 10th grade geometry, I was so excited to start this wonderful world of shapes and magic. Instead, I was forced into a chair, and we started reviewing basic math. For a few weeks I tried really hard to sit in the class and learn but all we did was basic math skills… AND I MEAN BASIC! I was so disappointed and discouraged that I just gave up, I dropped out of school and started experimenting with what destroyed my life for many years to come. That is the topic of future blogs.

I have been doing my own research on dyslexia and have found some breakthrough information that has helped me learn how to better function in my very unique world and how I see things. Dyslexia can better be described using a threefold approach. I will try to explain this complex pattern of thoughts in a simple and short manner. I know I will misrepresent this information as some folks understand it and may leave out other information that, yet others may understand better. My point is not to perfectly explain the Dyslexic person in every situation but rather to represent my challenges in my own experiences.

When I say the sentence “The sky is blue” we can see basically three distinct ways to process that sentence. The first is to look at the words and think of the words as they make up the sentence (word thinking). The second, and probably the most common way, is to visualize the “blue sky” (picture thinking). BUT the dyslexic person may see both words and pictures with an enhancement… 3D thinking. Thinking. Seeing the words and the picture but in a 3-dimensional way. Seeing the words from front, back, top and bottom. This is why I can never seem to master spelling. I see words and letters from all sides as if they are objects as well as words. But wait, there is more: I see the picture of a blue sky from three dimensions as well.

MIND EQUALS BLOWN!

So, for me it is like seeing every sentence, word, idea, thought and concept as a three-dimensional computer-generated display. Think of the “Iron Man” computer, it displays a three-dimensional interactive interface that can be spun, twisted, expanded and changed… So, I can see what I want to make, do or feel but I can’t explain it in common language. 

Mayo got it all wrong! Dyslexia is not a deficiency and certainly not a disability, it’s an enhancement. And gives me the ability to create things in my head and troubleshoot things that some are unable to even understand. Does this make me superhuman? Better? Superior? Well, no but it does make me better at what I do. And to be frank, I love my disab-yslexia. And so does Jessica, because she is a word thinker and together, we are perfect, apart we fall short. I thank the Lord for my disability.

I pray you feel our Lord has richly bless you this beautiful day, Living Hazzardously.

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Dear Mr Cellophane, Please refrain, Mr Cellophane.

January 29, 2024 by Charlie Hazzard

Dear Mr Cellophane, Please refrain, Mr Cellophane.

Her scream pierced the night as if it were a tornado siren!  Shattering the silent calm with shrieks of terror. The puppeteer, now in full control, reaping, claiming & taking over her very will, leaving nothing untouched. Like a tornado when it hits a small town. TERROR ON EVERY SIDE. Quick! Everyone hide! Head to the basement! Under the stairs! Into a closet! Into safety…  But today, there is no place to hide, no safe place to be. As if we sat in a vast open field. We sat on the edge of our bed, so horribly unprotected, the “siren” wails, we can’t run, we can’t hide, we can only sit here as the storm devours us. It swallows our life in one large gulp, one devastating statement, “He didn’t make it”. That scream was only one word, yet it said all there was to say. That word will forever haunt my memories…. “WHAT”.  

I watched a woman cry out in pain on tv after she had the truth revealed to her in real time about her beloved child and I too cried. I was there when my father died and I watched my mother cry out in pain when my sister died in a tragic crash. I was with my mother the day she passed away. I sang at the funeral of my niece who was murdered. Death is real and it is inevitable! So why do we react the way we do? Everyone is going to “Kick the bucket”. Is it a surprise?

When death enters the life of a friend or relative, how should we react? Should we offer long statements of how we know what you are going through? Perhaps we should simply connect at the beginning with hugs and attention and slowly drift back to a settled life we had before this event? Maybe we should just do our best to ignore It and not even acknowledge the situation? What is the best way to react? What is the proper way to connect? Is there a wrong way? I personally think this is a much more complicated question and it depends greatly on the relationship.

When my step son Sam passed away that August night, I started on a journey that was “unfamiliar” to me. I had previously experienced plenty of death in my life, I knew the attention I should expect. The responses people give in different situations can vary more than the East is from the West… BUT I did not expect this : “Dear Mr Cellophane, Please refrain, Mr Cellophane”. I experienced a form of disconnect or perhaps a better description is invisibleness in the months that followed. It was as if the expectation others  had were more like I had lost a distant third cousin that I only met once about 20 years ago. This not only surprised me, it made me feel like my relationship with Sam was insignificant and meant little to nothing. I could only assume this was simply because I am his “step father”. 

In the months to come I heard statements like “Ohh this must be so hard on Jess and Al, do you know how his father is doing?” or “Wow, this must be so hard, How is Jess handling this?” or maybe “I remember when(insert a favorite memory) happened, Does Jess need anything? You know we are always here to help, whatever Jess and Al need, just let us know!” I started to feel invisible and I started to feel like I didn’t experience the death of a child, now granted, he was not my blood child, and I don’t want to downplay that role. I am also adopted into a family, the family of God and God thinks of me no less than his “blood” child. 

It wasn’t until months, well actually about a year later that I found a man who also was ‘Mr Cellophane”, he too was the step father to a child that ran ahead into heaven… and he actually knew what I felt. For the first time since Sam passed away, I understood I was not crazy in this area and the feelings I felt were very similar to his… he had raised this boy of his from a very early age… he too was invisible.

I am not looking for “pity” and I certainly don’t want attention but I did find it was hard and for a brief moment in time I think I can understand a bit of how God may feel. When God is not given the credit due him for being our Father. Ohh I know, it’s different, I’m not saying I am God or that I know what it’s like.. But it got me thinking… Do I give God the attention he deserves for stepping into my life and being my step father? Do I recognize the commitment and dedication he has given freely to me? How about you? Do you need to take a second and credit God what is due to God for being your GOOD STEP DAD? 

May God bring you peace today

Livinghazzardously for God.

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How do I love thee, let me count the ways.

January 21, 2024 by Charlie Hazzard

How do I love thee, let me count the ways.

Love is such an awesome word, don’t you agree? What other word can we miss use so easily? I love my wife, I love my dog, I love fruit loops, I love my brother, I love my grandchild… and on and on we go, just loving anything. But how do I love my wife? Do I lay down my life for my wife the same way I do for a salmon dinner in a fine restaurant? Or if I have to choose between my granddaughter and my chickens, am I indifferent? 

This morning, I sat at my table drinking coffee and thought about how much I love having a warm comfortable home. My beautiful wife walks in and says, “good morning, Hunny, I love you!” Does she think I am a warm comfortable house? Of course not, so what is it about the word “love” anyway? Well, I think it’s best described in the Greek language with three or maybe its four distinctly different words. Is it important to know the difference? Maybe not. We understand the difference because we can relate to the nuances of our simple language and how to apply each variation.

In Greek, (as I understand it, and I’m sure my interpretation is less perfect) the word for love is split into four:  Agape, Philia, Eros and Storge.

 Agape is a word for a pure and self-sacrificial love, the kind of love that is never affected by the subject of that love. In other words, you can in no way change the love that is given in “Agape”. Not in thought, word or deed. Agape is freely given, and your actions have no bearing on that love in any way. It is the highest form of love, and the deepest form of love. I really don’t have any other example than John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son….” Loving his creation so much that he sacrificed his “SON” so we can be forgiven for our willful sin (no matter how small that sin may seem).

Philia, another word for love, is the root of the word “Philadelphia”. You may have guessed it, “The city of Brother love” is from this root word. It has been described as a deeper form of love than “casual love” and depends on sharing an origin with another person. It is also described as a “give and take love” as in “you scratch my back and I scratch your back”. It’s a love given and taken within a secure and trusted, deeper level of a relationship.

Eros, the word for sensual physical love, as in a sensual relationship between a husband and wife. We get the word “erotic” from this Greek word.  This love can be described as the physical receiving of love. Eros can also be “joint receiving” of erotic love making. Eros is not one sided, the focus is more in the receiving rather than giving. Eros can only be taken in a sense, but all too often it will be taken solely in a selfish manner and little to no thought is given about the one it was taken from. It can be selfish & self-serving… In the right format, it can be beautiful, bonding and kind.  In the wrong format, it will be ugly, hurtful and destructive to all those involved and spreads to others like cancer. 

Storge is our last word for love and can be described as “family love” but I have heard it used as “an affection for or towards a thing”. In short, it can be used for “I love this neighborhood” or “I love french fries” and can even be part of the “love formula” I have for other things. I have always found this word to be the most criticized of these four Greek love words, but that doesn’t stop me from talking about it. 

So, does it matter? If it doesn’t matter, why not and should it matter? If it does matter, how does it matter and what benefit is there to knowing all this? Maybe it’s just worthless gibberish and I should go wash my socks…  I find this topic to be an unusually interesting topic as it helps me draw near to God, my bride, my sons and helps me to feel compassion for others. I find it helps me to understand how relationships are different but so valuable to my life.

By categorizing these different “loves” I have learned how to better apply them and even more how to appreciate them. How can I better love my bride? (don’t worry, this is a G rated blog) can I Agape her when I am grumpy? Can I Storge her when I am in pain? Can I Philia her when I feel alone? What needs to change to show her how I truly feel? What can I change so that I can see how she really feels? Now that I have that sorted out and now that my marriage is perfect, let’s move on to everyone else in the world… and eventually I will get around to that dog of mine that destroyed 2 brand new 12-3 50-foot extension cords before I even got to use them (I am still calming down over that). 

So, to close out this blog on this cold and windy January day, I leave you with a few thoughts. In the following verses, I have used a substitution in the American translations that say “Love”.  I am pretty sure all these words for love are “AGAPE” but that is not my point in this blog. I have categorized the following phrases in an effort to reflect on the application of love. This passage is a great resource to help explain my point. I am not explaining the passages, I am only using the verses to better explain the American word “love”.

“Love is patient”

  •  Agape is patient, when it is pure and perfect
  • Philia is patient, when it is mutual
  • Eros is patient, when it’s not selfish
  • Storge is patient, when we are friends

“Love is kind”

  •  Agape is kind, when it is pure and perfect
  • Philia is kind, when it is mutual
  • Eros is kind, when it’s not selfish
  • Storge is kind, when we are friends

“Love is not jealous”

  •  Agape is not jealous, when it is pure and perfect
  • Philia is not jealous, when it is mutual
  • Eros is not jealous, when it’s not selfish
  • Storge is not jealous, when we are friends

“Love does not brag”

  •  Agape does not brag, when it is pure and perfect
  • Philia does not brag, when it is mutual
  • Eros does not brag, when it’s not selfish
  • Storge does not brag, when we are friends

“Love is not arrogant”

  •  Agape is not arrogant, when it is pure and perfect
  • Philia is not arrogant, when it is mutual
  • Eros is not arrogant, when it’s not selfish
  • Storge is not arrogant, when we are friends

“Love does not act unbecomingly”

  •  Agape does not act unbecomingly, when it is pure and perfect
  • Philia does not act unbecomingly, when it is mutual
  • Eros does not act unbecomingly, when it’s not selfish
  • Storge does not act unbecomingly, when we are friends

“Love does not seek its own”

  •  Agape does not seek its own, when it is pure and perfect
  • Philia does not seek its own, when it is mutual
  • Eros does not seek its own, when it’s not selfish
  • Storge does not seek its own, when we are friends

“Love is not provoked”

  •  Agape is not provoked, when it is pure and perfect
  • Philia is not provoked, when it is mutual
  • Eros is not provoked, when it’s not selfish
  • Storge is not provoked, when we are friends

“Love does not take into account a wrong suffered”

  •  Agape does not take into account a wrong suffered, when it is pure and perfect
  • Philia does not take into account a wrong suffered, when it is mutual
  • Eros does not take into account a wrong suffered, when it’s not selfish
  • Storge does not take into account a wrong suffered, when we are friends

“Love does not rejoice in unrighteousness”

  •  Agape does not rejoice in unrighteousness, when it is pure and perfect
  • Philia does not rejoice in unrighteousness, when it is mutual
  • Eros does not rejoice in unrighteousness, when it’s not selfish
  • Storge does not rejoice in unrighteousness, when we are friends

“Love rejoices with the truth”

  •  Agape rejoices with the truth, when it is pure and perfect
  • Philia rejoices with the truth, when it is mutual
  • Eros rejoices with the truth, when it’s not selfish
  • Storge rejoices with the truth, when we are friends

“Love bears all things”

  •  Agape bears all things, when it is pure and perfect
  • Philia bears all things, when it is mutual
  • Eros bears all things, when it’s not selfish
  • Storge bears all things, when we are friends

“Love believes all things”

  •   Agape believes all things, when it is pure and perfect
  • Philia believes all things, when it is mutual
  • Eros believes all things, when it’s not selfish
  • Storge believes all things, when we are friends

“Love hopes all things”

  •  Agape hopes all things, when it is pure and perfect
  • Philia hopes all things, when it is mutual
  • Eros hopes all things, when it’s not selfish
  • Storge hopes all things, when we are friends

“Love endures all things”

  •  Agape endures all things, when it is pure and perfect
  • Philia endures all things, when it is mutual
  • Eros endures all things, when it’s not selfish
  • Storge endures all things, when we are friends

Love, what a powerful and misused four letter word. 

Charlie, Living Hazzardously for the Glory of our loving savior.

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